Our society has failed at discussing the subject of death and grieving. “Meaning” adds a cushion to grieving when we lose someone who has died. We can help ourselves and the people we are connected to better integrate their feelings of loss with the present, while moving forward. There are lots of important thoughts to consider when we or others look for meaning after the death of a loved one. But, it can be wickedly tough to find that meaning after this kind of loss. Here are ways to think about what “Meaning” looks like after a someone has passed on, how to help ourselves and others find the meaning we need to go forward in our own lives...
Finding gratitude for the time with them even though they have passed.
Realizing the brevity of life
What are we going to do with our story?
Maybe we feel some kind of change by their death
We are going to do something for others to help them and ourselves heal
Meaning is relative and personal
It isn’t necessary to understand why someone died to find meaning
Your loss is what happens in life, meaning is what you make happen in your life
Meaningful connections can replace painful memories
“Naming” the meaningful moments is valuable
Can’t lose your life to the pain of loss
If our thoughts are any way it will be our reality
We have to find and feel our feelings as a part of the process,
The loss of hope is temporary
Keep searching, learning and seeking others when you need help
This is one of many tough subjects that people haven’t discussed for generations. If it wasn’t in your parent’s playbook, teacher’s lesson plans or even religious discussions (if you had any of them) it still didn’t break the threshold. We have to change that so we are all able to heal and grow, in the name of the people who have passed before us that would not want us to lose the opportunities in life we have now.
All my best and much love,
Dave
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